What should I do????
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What should I do????
I’m currently in the final stages of my divorce being finalized. My ex-wife and I are having a disagreement about a specific part of the divorce decree. My 2 weeks of uninterrupted summer visitation is coming up in the next week or so. Regardless, my ex-wife stated that if she doesn’t mean my current girlfriend that she will not allow the kids to go with me for those 2 weeks. I understand that she doesn’t have the right to do such a thing and I can have the court intervene. Our whole argument is my current girlfriend wants to come spend the 2 weeks with the kids and I, due to she wants to move in around December. The ex-wife says that if she meets the girlfriend then the girlfriend can be around the kids during the day but MUST leave at night. Currently, the ex-wife has her boyfriend of 4 or 5 months living with her. She said that if she finds out the girlfriend has stayed the night that she will have her lawyer get the court to file for contempt of court. I told her that technically, I am not in the wrong because the girlfriend hasn’t stayed the night and that she is in violate of the proper conduct order because the boyfriend is living with her. She also stated that she is
Asked on July 8, 2016 under Family Law, Oklahoma
B.H.F., Member, Texas State Bar / FreeAdvice Contributing Attorney
Answered 5 years ago | Contributor
Basically, you can take her to court so that the rules are the same for both parents... or you can simply proceed, invite your girlfiend over, and wait for the chips to fall.
If she files a contempt motion, she will have to come with clean hands. Considering that she is already violating, she is going to have a hard time arguing for contempt. Even though she claims to be 'exempt', she is not exempt until the court specifically exempts her.
Your attorney is recommending that you take the 'path of least resistence'... which basically means giving into your ex. It is the financially easier and drama free way to handle the situation. However, at some point you will need to push back or she will continue to dictate your relationships with your children and other adult relationships.
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