What canI do if my son says he doesn’t like or want to be around my soon-to-be ex-wife’s boyfriend?

Me and my wife are going through a divorce. She already has a full-time boyfriend that is at her house all the time, or her and the kids are at his. When my son is made to go to her boyfriend’s house he is forced to sleep on the couch. My son isn’t comfortable around him and has told me he doesn’t like or want to be around him. My son and I both have tried to talk to the soon to be ex wife about it but she refuses to hear either of us.

Asked on August 28, 2011 California

Answers:

M.T.G., Member, New York Bar / FreeAdvice Contributing Attorney

Answered 9 years ago | Contributor

It is hard to read between the lines here.  What is it exactly that you want to do about this all?  Do you want your soon to be ex wife NOT to take the kids over there or do you want your son not to have to go?  Would you rather that he be able to come and stay with you?  If that is the case then you need to vocalize this issue before the divorce is finalized. How old is your son?  If he is old enough to voice his concerns in a logical and calm manner to a Judge he will be heard.  It is an uncomfortable situation and he would prefer to be with you.  Not I don't like him and he is mean.  Speak with your lawyer.  I think you have a valid concern here.  Good luck.


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