A lot of this depends on the status of your "ex." If you were married, then there is a separation agreement and/or divorce decree that sets forth the status of personal property. If not, then the matter gets a bit more difficult. If you "sell / remove her items," you could face various consequences, from small claims court allegations of coversion (taking someone else's property and using it for your own ends) to criminal charges.  Your best bet is to seek out an experienced and skilled local attorney who can work with you in this matter. Good luck