Absent a court order to the contrary, you are entitled to access to your house. He can not use what is called self help. You could call the police to assist you. You do not have to give him a legal separation. In a divorce, your home and other marital assets can be distributed by the court or by agreement. The wedding ring is yours. Since he wants the divorce or separation that could be a bargaining chip for you. I am a matrimonial attorney. Give me a call if you would like to discuss the situation. It would be my pleasure to speak with you about the case. Darren M. Shapiro, Esq. 516-333-6555. www.NYAttorneyDivorce.com www.CriminalDefense1.com